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This came up from a conversation that

likethepaint and I are having with

eyerenderingfan, and I would be really interested in knowing the following:

[Poll #1290143]

Here's the thing: I think I was edge before I even knew what it meant. I decided in Year 9 not to drink - whether to just be contradictory or because I just didn't want to, I don't know. But I didn't drink, take drugs or do anything of the sort for a long old time. I didn't drink til I was 19, and I experimented a handful of times with drugs before deciding it wasn't for me.

I drank too much for a while - not alcoholic levels, but a bit. And it wasn't fun, I lost respect for myself and I lost the respect of others. I chilled it the fuck out and reclaimed my life - at around the time I decided it was time to kick my ED once and for all.

But I like a drink. I like a mulled wine at Christmas, a glass of wine with dinner. A couple of drinks and some dancing for a friend's birthday. I very rarely, if ever, get wasted, but I do sometimes get drunk. And I'm okay with that - I definitely now feel like I am the one in control of it.

I have SO much respect for you, and those of you that claim edge. But it's not for me, anymore. Things have changed. Havign relationships with two people who were alcoholic or vergeing on it has made me very aware of the damage it causes, but I don't feel that I'm doing that to myself. I'm sure you have evidence to back up your point of view, and I completely respect that. But I do, once in a while, like an alcoholic drink. That's my choice, as edge is yours.

I know we differ on this, so I hope that you can offer the level of respect I will - not to drink around you, for example, if we go to dinner. Because that would just be rude - much in the way that I hate people smoking around me.

That said - do you and Julie want to go for dinner for Thanksgiving? I doubt anywhere will actually be doing a proper Thanksgiving dinner, but I thought it might be nice in honour of our shared trip into the States : 0

Firstly: Thanksgiving dinner would be lovely, if we can afford it then. I'm flat broke right now, but fingers crossed.

Secondly, as long as you're not getting hammered it's perfectly fine for you to drink around us. Drinking sensibly isn't like smoking around people. If you have a glass of wine with dinner you're not forcing the choice on the people around you. There's no second hand buzz from you drinking wine; we don't have to choke on your smoke if you do that. And with one or two drinks like that you're not going to be falling down drunk and being douchey, so that's fine. It's your choice to do that.

I get frustrated with people who have made a conscious decision to become edge and then make a conscious decision to give it up when the primary factors are clearly other people.

I'll admit that I do have a general impatience with people who aren't edge, because I just find it hard to comprehend why anyone would be okay with doing that to themselves, but unless it's someone I feel hugely protective or it's not necessarily going to be a huge problem for me. I'd tease people about it, but ultimately I can't control my friends.

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