So I stopped watching Pete Wentz video for...sometime now I realize because listening to him speak was becoming to much now. But when did he stop saying "Like" every two seconds?
Honestly Pete Wentz is like Harry Potter in my mind- a fictional character that is whomever the fangirls and boys what him to be loosely based on things they read about him. That makes it easy for me to be rationalize a 30 year old man hanging out with a 15 year old girl. Obviously this isn't real life. Except omg it is. I did see the squick in this vid because I've always pointed out that he was a 23 year old man writing intensely sexual and violent "poetry" about a 15 year old girl. Um...Why is everyone so okay with that? No. No thank you.
It's just wild how teen mags make him like sexiest person on earth for their target audience of 14 year olds and then America wonders why teens are getting pregnant all the time? Then look at Miley who is their "bad girl/fun girl" role model because she is seen as a girl who embraces her sexuality and likes (*if you believe perezhilton.com and other celblogs/tabloids) older men watching her and everyone's scratching their heads trying to figure out where pedophilia comes from. They create their own monsters.
But um yeah keep churning out those teen!Patrick/college!Pete bandom. That I don't mind so much. (woah sorry to go all tl;dr on your journal)
I don't know Pete is gross in real life. Probably. I don't know him; we're not friends. Would you ever date a 17 year old at your age. Like can you see yourself falling in love? What would you talk about?
Pedophilia deals with prepubescent boys or girls. So I mean. I don't see anything wrong with men fantasizing about girls who look like women. Because Miley looks about 19. It's just actually doing something about it that's the issue. But if adults fantasize about children who look like children.. That's completely different.
IDK. Random thought. I discuss this a lot. And sexuality in the media and those "until she turns 18" countdowns and parenting vs. the media and why America's youth has gone wrong etc.
Okay, I get what you mean. That was the wrong choice of words. But I do think that the media brings sexuality of girls to the forefront at too early an age. I do think it's weird that girls are never shown boys their own age as sexual. But I guess that has to do more with development speeds than anything else maybe? IDK. I think about this all the time. Tell me your views.
I've been really uncomfortable with the way young girls are portrayed ever since the Spice Girls were out and they were making leopard print miniskirts and heels for five year olds.
It really creeps me out, because the cliche that a paedophile's excuse is always "but she looked older" is given more and more validity all the time. Seriously: thongs for seven year olds? How fucked up is that? You can't justify paedophilia, but we're hardly discouraging it in the way we present little girls in particular, are we?
See in my culture 18 is not some magic number that makes you a Man/Woman. You don't get kicked out of the house, you don't get to live your own way anymoreso than ususal. You are still a child, who just happens to have lived for 18 years.
My cousin is 8 and stayed with us for the summer. Half her wardrobe consisted of backless/strapless/one strap tank tops. Yes it's hot, but seriously? Don't get me started on her shorts. Her mother is ...
The disturbing thing is how many women come in Stride Rite asking if we have heels for their four year olds.
Like, "Oh! She wants to have shoes like mommy!"
To which I have never replied, "Does she want crabs like mommy, too?"
I think there's a buffer for short skirts and shorts. They're cute on babies. About age of four, your kid isn't a baby anymore and other little kids are going to notice and parents are going to be scandalized. So buy the shorts a little bit longer.
It's about the age that kids need to stop running around their brothers and sisters naked.
It's different when you spend a lot of time cleaning diaper mess off of kids. And bathing them. It is awkward at first. Well. Sort of. I guess I have a really strange and uncharacteristic maternal instinct.
Some people don't. I honestly wish I didn't because children are fucking annoying. It's the first day of my period and every part of my body hurts but there's no day care so I've spent all day with the kids, trying to clean my mother's house and they keep asking ridiculous questions and demanding to be held and fed and I can't curse in front of them so I've been silently wishing my ovaries would shrivel up for more than one reason and also maybe that I had a sedative. But even if I did I couldn't take it because then who would watch the children?
I think in the long run it's mostly an idea of the fact that we're hooked on stories of prince charming before we reach our sexual maturity mixed with the fact that girls mature faster than boys mixed with the fact that the idea of the sexuality of girls is taboo because it's desireable to men so it's often repressed so girls get the idea that they can't be sexual unless they're a woman, and even then sex will be had in an objectifying manner which involves having a perfect body and being on display, but none of that will matter because a real man can make you feel like a woman.
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on 2008-08-03 12:09 am (UTC)Honestly Pete Wentz is like Harry Potter in my mind- a fictional character that is whomever the fangirls and boys what him to be loosely based on things they read about him. That makes it easy for me to be rationalize a 30 year old man hanging out with a 15 year old girl. Obviously this isn't real life. Except omg it is. I did see the squick in this vid because I've always pointed out that he was a 23 year old man writing intensely sexual and violent "poetry" about a 15 year old girl. Um...Why is everyone so okay with that? No. No thank you.
It's just wild how teen mags make him like sexiest person on earth for their target audience of 14 year olds and then America wonders why teens are getting pregnant all the time? Then look at Miley who is their "bad girl/fun girl" role model because she is seen as a girl who embraces her sexuality and likes (*if you believe perezhilton.com and other celblogs/tabloids) older men watching her and everyone's scratching their heads trying to figure out where pedophilia comes from. They create their own monsters.
But um yeah keep churning out those teen!Patrick/college!Pete bandom. That I don't mind so much. (woah sorry to go all tl;dr on your journal)
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on 2008-08-03 12:18 am (UTC)I knew guys who thought it was weird to date a 15 year old when they were 17.
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on 2008-08-03 12:20 am (UTC)no subject
on 2008-08-03 12:22 am (UTC)serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:19 am (UTC)IDK. Random thought. I discuss this a lot. And sexuality in the media and those "until she turns 18" countdowns and parenting vs. the media and why America's youth has gone wrong etc.
Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:25 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:31 am (UTC)I've been really uncomfortable with the way young girls are portrayed ever since the Spice Girls were out and they were making leopard print miniskirts and heels for five year olds.
It really creeps me out, because the cliche that a paedophile's excuse is always "but she looked older" is given more and more validity all the time. Seriously: thongs for seven year olds? How fucked up is that? You can't justify paedophilia, but we're hardly discouraging it in the way we present little girls in particular, are we?
Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:40 am (UTC)See in my culture 18 is not some magic number that makes you a Man/Woman. You don't get kicked out of the house, you don't get to live your own way anymoreso than ususal. You are still a child, who just happens to have lived for 18 years.
My cousin is 8 and stayed with us for the summer. Half her wardrobe consisted of backless/strapless/one strap tank tops. Yes it's hot, but seriously? Don't get me started on her shorts. Her mother is ...
Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:46 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:58 am (UTC)Like, "Oh! She wants to have shoes like mommy!"
To which I have never replied, "Does she want crabs like mommy, too?"
I think there's a buffer for short skirts and shorts. They're cute on babies. About age of four, your kid isn't a baby anymore and other little kids are going to notice and parents are going to be scandalized. So buy the shorts a little bit longer.
It's about the age that kids need to stop running around their brothers and sisters naked.
Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:01 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:03 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:04 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:07 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:09 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 01:10 am (UTC)Re: serious business
on 2008-08-03 12:52 am (UTC)I think in the long run it's mostly an idea of the fact that we're hooked on stories of prince charming before we reach our sexual maturity mixed with the fact that girls mature faster than boys mixed with the fact that the idea of the sexuality of girls is taboo because it's desireable to men so it's often repressed so girls get the idea that they can't be sexual unless they're a woman, and even then sex will be had in an objectifying manner which involves having a perfect body and being on display, but none of that will matter because a real man can make you feel like a woman.