Oh, please.

[rosiedoes]

I decided to make my LJ 'registered members only' for comments, so that I can ban people from commenting and avoid lurkers.

It's really kind of creepy to have random people you've no interest in poking around and trying to interfere. At least I can now ban people fully.

See, I don't like lurkers. I don't believe the things I post are interesting enough to warrant it and if people are only here to try to one-up each other or don't have the balls to leave an identifying name, even a fake one, so I know it's they who comment more than once, they're not the kind of people I want to know are around. I refuse to make my entire journal friends only, but I don't want to know you're here if you can't justify why.

Or if I just plain think you're obnoxious.

Let's get another thing straight: some people around here have met certain bands (or actors, or... random people) several times. And that's cool for them/you, seriously, but I honestly do not care or need to know important you think that makes your opinion. Whatever you think you are, you're just another kid; never forget that. I probably have very little to say to you and if all you have is 'bragging material' pack it up and go and play with the twelve year olds because they'll be much more impressed, I promise.

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[anjak-j.livejournal.com]

LOLZ @ that last paragraph. People thinking they are 'special' because they met x person are really annoying.

The only thing I really have to say to the types who are like - "Oh, I met so-'n'-so 5 billion times already" - is, "How about getting a life and giving someone else a chance?"

[rosiedoes.livejournal.com]

Which pretty much sums it up.

The unfortunate thing about the FBR bands is that there are certain factions who like to think that they're the bands' best friends and some who will go to great lengths to get to them.

Don't get me wrong. I leave comments on Ryland's journal. I hang around after shows and I've met certain bands a couple of times. I don't think this makes me special - it means I had a great opportunity to talk to people I admire. I don't think that the people who have been around long enough to have their first names known by these people are special, either. They're just familiar.

I don't know whether to be amused or appalled; or just whether to pity them. One day they'll look back and feel like idiots.

[anjak-j.livejournal.com]

It's pretty much like that in most bandoms. There were factions like that when I used to do the boyband thing years ago and no amount of being told how much the bands thought they were sad by the security guys would convince them of how ludicrous their behaviour was.

Like you, I've had a lot of opportunities to be around and talk to people I admire and respect. I've drank in bars with family members of bands - by their invitation. I've met some really nice people - both famous and not. Some of my best mates are as a result of band following and con going. Yes, I feel privileged to have met these people, but special? Not really. I abhor that kind of attitude in fandom, for whatever reasons it is generated.

[rosiedoes.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I could tell so many stories, but I don't think it's necessary.

It's a case of learning when friendliness is just courtesy, and when you're being invited. And also a case of keeping arm's length - it doesn't all have to be on their terms.